14 Sep 2017

Our Stories Define Us
[caption id="attachment_1617" align="alignnone" width="600"] Chapter Two Blog - Our Stories Define Us[/caption] We all have stories. Stories of how we got a scar, came into our line of work, got married, and chose our home and so on. We tell these stories to parents, friends, supervisors and lovers. We also tell them to ourselves. When we meet someone new, we introduce our...

23 Mar 2017

I don't know where i am going
That’s not how I feel. It’s a popular question on Quora. Why do more and more people seem to feel this way? In today’s blog, I want to address frequently asked questions on Quora that are all anchored in life skills. So let’s look at this one first. “I don’t know where I am going. What do I do?” The truth is we all start out with well-laid plans. But then, life happens. Life is unp...

15 Mar 2017

Chapter Two Blog - Build a self you don’t need to escape from through other people
As a writer on Quora I get these questions a lot: - I am feeling lonely. I have no friends. What do I do? I want friends. - I am dull and not confident. I can’t approach people. Nobody really likes me or approaches me with any interest. What to do? I want people to like me. - I am ugly and unattractive. Nobody talks to me. Nobody approaches me romantically. Is there any hope for...

07 Mar 2017

Choosing your battles
We all meet people who challenge our sanity every now and then. Sometimes it’s at work. Sometimes it’s friends. Sometimes it’s our own family. The bottom-line is the same: they drive us up the wall with their unreason and their stubbornness. In situations like these, we tend to get mad in order to get even. The problem is we don’t know when to get mad and how much. There’s a great ...

01 Mar 2017

Chapter Two Blog - 21 day magic trick
Let’s try something new. As a regular writer on Quora, I come across diverse questions, all linked by a common theme: how can I feel better about myself and my life. Here are some of these questions: How can I be a friendlier person? How can I feel less lonely? How do I become a more open person? How do I be more successful? How can I think less / worry less? How c...

16 Feb 2017

Why am I not trending
How technology may be causing you to worry about the wrong things Recently, I’ve noticed people have great concentration and focus. Friends creating interesting, timely social media updates Friends keeping up with every Whatsapp group People multi-tasking expertly between dinner conversation and texting At a community function, people of all ages recording the performan...

09 Feb 2017

THE ONE EQUATION THAT CAN NURTURE OR DAMAGE YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
Today I want to talk to you about an interesting equation. It’s not scientific. But its effects, when played out in relationships, can be as predictable as science. The equation is this: Assumptions + lack of communication = interpersonal conflict Have you experienced this? It happens to me a lot. It happens to people I know too. A friend recently narrated an incident from work. ...

02 Feb 2017

Chapter Two Blog - Importance of Being on Time
I was waiting on a client. We had to discuss a few things about a new campaign I was developing for her. My client was late, as always. I was getting slowly but steadily annoyed. I realised then that I abhor people who come late, who make me wait. It seems reasonable enough. But it also got me thinking. I thought back to my corporate days. Instantly, I recollected the times when I had...

24 Jan 2017

Two sides to the story Part 2
Last week I wrote about how we always need to be alert to another side of a story. I spoke about it in the context of receiving information about the world. This week, I want to show how to translate this same thinking to our professional or personal life. The other day I met a friend of mine over coffee. I noticed she was very anxious. I asked her what was wrong. She said her company...

18 Jan 2017

Two Sides to Every Story
There are always two sides to every story. It is a sign of intelligence to keep an ear out for the other story, the story no one is telling, the one that’s not popular. This makes us look closer, broaden our perspective, and stop us from jumping on the bandwagon. In other words, it makes us sceptical. This is a valuable way to be in these times of volatility and ‘post-truth’ where the op...